Monday, September 26, 2016

Adulting Yet Again: I Must Walk This Path

I cannot find an easy solution to any of my problems.

On the way to visit my mom in the hospital last week, my two kids in the backseat, whining and needing to pee after an hour on the back roads, the sign advertising HUGE lots and BIG houses in a fairly prestigious area called to me.

I want the easy path.

Chuck it all and move somewhere cheaper with easier access to freeways? Ooooh, that sounds really good right now.

I had a rough week at work. My mom's health took a turn for the much worse.  I cannot find a reasonable solution to, well, anything.

Big houses. Good schools.

Then...

I'll have to change jobs, and so will my husband.  Who knows if the schools are actually any less complicated than our current "open enrollment" fiasco.  And, you know what? That area has cheap houses because it's like 1,000 degrees hotter than wine country.

That whole #adulting reality came crashing down on my again.  I cannot find an easy path.

I have to walk this path.

I have to grow up and deal with what happens at work (even if that means really learning how to say no).

I have to suck it up and face my mom's illness and try to sort out the practical matters so that she can live a meaningful, joyful life.

I have to swallow any guilt I feel about not choosing a particular school in a particular area for my son and just find the one that fits his needs.

I won't find a magical solution to wave over all of my problems. No gorgeous house waits around the corner, with room for my extended family and easy access to the school for my kids. Saying no at work will mean that I lose some of the power I've fought to gain.  Progress will mean sacrifices and compromises.

I want to toss up my hands. I want to wiggle my nose three times and find some solutions.

So much has landed on my plate right now, and the idea of running away really sounds appealing, but I need to make the "adult" choice to stand and fight.

Here we go.








Monday, September 12, 2016

Turn Tables

Welcome to a new week on Turn It Up Tuesday!! Thanks so much for sharing your Fall posts with us last week...let's continue sharing more this week! We can't wait to check out all of your posts. We'd like to thank you in advance for sharing all of your amazing posts with us - we LOVE checking them all out!

I enjoy the recipes we share, but I also love when a post hits home - take a look at the first post in the list about not being "that mom." I sooooo relate to this as I push my kids out the door each morning, my son in whatever he chose to wear, and my daughter's pony tails just the type of crooked my mom warned me about every time I wiggled in my seat. Yeah...I'm a bit of a mess,but I do my best.

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Natasha from Epic Mommy Adventures | Stacey from This Momma's Ramblings | April from April Noelle | Tina from The Happy Creations | Tiffany from The Mrs Tee| Elaine from Ramblings of a Bad Domestic Goddess | Kelly from Making-More | Silvie from My Silly Little Gang | Mari from Living in Mommywood | Tenns from Bliss & Faith | Kimberly from Being a Wordsmith | Ginger from Does Your Sister Have Normal Hair | Bev from Eclectic Red Barn | Heather from Goodlicious | Robin from Snippets of Faith | Jessica from Striving Towards Grace | Abiola from Ramblings of a Nigerian Workahomom | Sarah from Roaring Mama Lion | Lori from Saved By the Mommy

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Chell from Chell Bee | Danielle from Dancing with My Daughter

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Here are the Featured posts from last week!

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Sarah chose I'm Not That Mom from our very own Tiffany from TheMrsTee. "I am also - NOT that mom, and I've gotten "into" it with some moms over it and also build a tribe of moms who are in my "camp," so to speak. There shouldn't be mom wars, but if there are, I'm totally not on the perfect side."
Natasha also chose this post. "I'm definitely not that mom! And my son is definitely not that child that needs anything complicated. He always aims for the simple, and even when I ask him what he wants for lunch, he'll tell me he just wants a jelly sandwich, fruit, and pretzels. So I'm just focusing on being myself and being simple - I'm definitely not perfect!"
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Sarah chose Homemade Uncrustables from our very own Kelly from Making More... "My son is OBSESSED with peanut butter sandwiches, and I was just thinking of doing something like this for his lunches."
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Mari chose If You Are Raising A Daughter You Are Raising Someones Wife and Mother from Barbie Bieber and Beyond. "I love this share its a conversation starter and as a parent to a daughter it arose strong feelings for sure. It reinforced my strong feelings about putting people in boxes. Thank you Mandy for awesome share."
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Mari chose Fall in Love with the Process from Inner Savvy Wellness. "Karen's share was another favorite because in life we tend to resist change fearing something that is not even real! We create emotions and stress not needed if we just learn to let go just a little bit."
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Heather chose Bruschetta from Morsels of Life. "Gabriel helped me pick the features this week, and this was his top choice. "That looks delicious!" were his exact words. We eat a lot of fresh vegetables, and combining tomatoes with garlic and basil on top of crusty bread is always a good idea."
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Heather chose Chipotle Burgers with Avocado from My Suburban Kitchen. "This was Gabriel's other favorite (although we had a bit of work narrowing things down). He loves spicy food, and this chipotle burger with avocado suits his taste well. "It makes my mouth water," he said. And that was AFTER we'd had steak for dinner! I think I'll have trouble keeping this foodie fed during his teen years."
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Stacey chose Bacon Cheese Oatmeal Breakfast Cookies from My Suburban Kitchen. "These look wonderful, and would be a great breakfast treat for my lil man's birthday. Thank you so much for sharing!"
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Stacey chose No Cook Corn Black Bean Salsa from My Suburban Kitchen. "This looks amazing! I love having salsa on so many different dishes, from chicken to salads, and I can't wait to try this. Thank you for sharing!"
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Tiffany chose 8 Vital Goal Setting Tips for Success from Ecurosie. "I am always working on making sure I follow through on the Goals I set for myself and this post gave me the steps I need to help make that happen."
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Tiffany chose Pumpkin Decorating Ideas: Metallic Foil Pumpkins from AttaGirl Says. "I definitely have fall on the brain and I am on the hunt for some new unique ways to decorate. Thanks for sharing these awesome ideas Amy!"
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Natasha chose Caramel Apple Turnovers Recipe from Creatively Homemade. "I just love apple turnovers...and this recipe looks delicious! Thanks for sharing!"
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Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Tuesday Turned Into Wednesday

Welcome to a new week on Turn It Up Tuesday!! Happy September!!! Can you believe it's September already? Fall is on its way! And to celebrate and kick start the fall, let's work on sharing some fall-related posts - it could be fall recipes, outings, ideas, Halloween, anything at all! We can't wait to check out all of your posts. We'd like to thank you in advance for sharing all of your amazing posts with us - we LOVE checking them all out!

Life as a mommy AND teacher is hitting me harder than usual this year, and so, Tuesday quickly turned into Wednesday before I had a chance to post. We had an amazing weekend away - away from home, from the Internet, and from stress, and sadly, also largely away from sleep...here we are, back in gear, with some fun posts for you to check out!

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Natasha from Epic Mommy Adventures | Stacey from This Momma's Ramblings | April from April Noelle | Tina from The Happy Creations | Tiffany from The Mrs Tee| Elaine from Ramblings of a Bad Domestic Goddess | Kelly from Making-More | Silvie from My Silly Little Gang | Mari from Living in Mommywood | Tenns from Bliss & Faith | Kimberly from Being a Wordsmith | Ginger from Does Your Sister Have Normal Hair | Bev from Eclectic Red Barn | Heather from Goodlicious | Robin from Snippets of Faith | Jessica from Striving Towards Grace | Abiola from Ramblings of a Nigerian Workahomom | Sarah from Roaring Mama Lion | Lori from Saved By the Mommy

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Here are the Featured posts from last week!

 
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Bev chose Caramel Praline Topped Cheesecake from Marilyns Treats. "I just can’t imagine a more delicious dessert than a cheesecake with pralines and caramel. So heavenly. Saving this for our anniversary."
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Bev chose Blueberry Zucchini Lemon Cake from All That's Jas. "This blueberry – zucchini cake will make a lovely presentation on your table. All those luscious blueberries inside and don’t forget that you get extra goodness from the zucchini."
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Mari chose Mediterranean Tri-Bean Salad from Grounded & Surrounded. "I loved coming across Sammi's share of this great healthy combo salad! Delish mix can't wait to try."
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Mari chose Berry Cheesecake Bars, Inspired by the Movie Greater from A Dish of Daily Life. "I thought it would be awesome after dinner treat or lounging on a Saturday afternoon sweet addition :)!"
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Heather chose Skillet Green Chile Chicken Chilaquiles from Spoonful of Flavor. "We love Mexican food. I can't wait to try this."
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Heather chose DIY Raspberry Lemonade Sugar Lip Scrub from Busy Being Jennifer. "My lips get chapped and this looks like a great way to exfoliate and moisturize with something natural and tasty."
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Natasha chose Cheesy Tomato Pasta Skillet from Honey & Birch. "This pasta dish looks so relish! I can't wait to try it with my lil' man; he will love it!"
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Natasha chose How To Optimize Instagram Posts (for Business or Fun) from our very own Abiola from Ramblings of a Naija Momaholic. "I love using Instagram personally, but have not fully utilized for my blog. Thanks for these simple tips to optimizing my Instagram posts. It will definitely come in handy!"
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Blueberry Zucchini Lemon Cake from All That's Jas
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Wednesday, August 31, 2016

I Will Speak

We live in an oddly politically correct time.  We are supposed to respect everybody's everything but not ever talk about it. Don't ask questions. Don't wonder. Don't talk about it. It shouldn't matter.

Some of the discussions are newer, raw, fresh, others are re-circulated Huffington Post Articles telling me not to ever talk about my daughter's body. Each article captioned, in a post scrolling by on my feed, with "This."

I think it's not so much THAT we talk about these topics as HOW we talk about these things.

As a daughter with a body, myself, and especially as one who was naturally prone to never speak about anything having to do with my body, I am forever grateful that my mom encouraged me to talk, encouraged me to cry, to rejoice, helped me get help when I needed it.  If she hadn't first encouraged me to talk, in the first place (even if I felt all...cringy...about it), I would never have told her that there was something very wrong when I was in college.

I will speak to my daughter about her body.

Dear N,

I promise to talk to you about your body.

When you first arrived in the world, I wrote down some thoughts, and I realized I would have to do some work on myself in order to show you how to respect and treasure your body. Mimi started that process with me, and it's a long journey, one I hope will be less treacherous for you.

Times have gotten even stranger, and I have found myself in the midst of those who say I should never talk to you about your body, compliment you on the splendor that is your magical, beautiful body. I promise you that I will not listen to them. I honor your body, and not only because I grew it inside my own, but because it is my responsibility as your mother to keep you healthy.

If you gain or lose weight, I will comment. I will want to know why - is this because you are growing and changing? If your skin changes, if your hair is less shiny, if your skin is bruising...Is this because you are ill - emotionally, physically, or something in between.

If you become a swimmer, a dancer, a gymnast, a runner, an athlete of any kind, I will speak of your grace, of your incredible strength.

If you decide otherwise, I will admire whatever way you choose to release the power contained in your body.

I will speak of your body so that you know never to feel shame for your height, weight, skin color, breasts, muscular legs, or any of the thousands of features people will judge. I will speak of your body so that you know that I respect that you walk in this world with me, that you are a mind and a body and a soul, that your body has such strength.

I see it already, in way you place your foot, in the swing of your hips.  You are fire.

I see it in your flips, in the way you run, in the way you leap from my arms in the pool.

You delight in movement.

You cannot help but move when you hear music. You bring the toys that make noise to us, begging for them to be turned on so that you can move, yet again, to the dancing flower singing, "I Want You Back."  You turn, you twist, you change direction. You smile. You laugh. You find joy in having control of your body.

And I admire it. I admire your comfort in your own skin, even at such a young age.

I will speak of this as you get older. I will remind you of your freedom, should you forget it. I will help set you free if the world locks you down. I will tell you that your body is a beautiful creation, God's work, His temple, there for you to honor Him and also for you to enjoy. Work your magic on the world, darling girl.

I will speak about your body.

You deserve to hear that your body exists and deserves to be complimented, honored, praised. If someone treats you wrong, or if you want to talk about a change, an accomplishment, a concern, a triumph. I want you to know that you can talk to me, that your body is always a possibility in our conversations.

You are much more than your body, but your body is an extension, an expression of your spiritual, emotional, and physical health, and I promise to notice it and help you keep it so very strong.

I love you beyond all measure.

Mama








Tuesday, August 30, 2016

The Wheels Keep Turning (It Up on Tuesday...)

Welcome to a new week on Turn It Up Tuesday!! We thoroughly enjoyed reading all of your posts - thanks so much for sharing with us! Let's continue to party! Share your new or old summer posts, back to school posts, and everything in between! We can't wait to check them all out!
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I've got some ideas cooking over at Roaring Mama Lion...I've been reading a lot about what we can and can't talk about, and I have something I need to say...it's brewing. 
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Tina chose Panda Bear Baby Costume {Cute Baby Costumes} from C.R.A.F.T. "A cute and easy to make baby costume.I really like this adorable creation, thanks for sharing it with us."
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Tina chose Strawberry Rose Slushies aka Frose from The Kittchen. "A very interesting recipe. It looks great and I really want to try it asap.Thanks for sharing this recipe with us."
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Stacey chose Heavenly Amish Cinnamon Loaf from The Crappy Housewife. "Anytime we make it to an Amish market, that is the first thing they gravitate towards, and I can't wait to give this one a try! Thank you for sharing!"
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Stacey chose Reese's Layered Cake from Fluster Buster. "This looks amazing, and would definitely be something that my lil man would want all of. Thank you so much for sharing!"
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Mari chose Do More of What Makes You Feel Alive free printable from Lolly Jane Blog. "I loved Kristi & Kelli's printable share because I feel more people need to live this way and having this framed some place in your home would be great inspiration."
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Mari chose 5 Positive Ways Mindfulness Can Affect Your Workout from Healthy Helper. "Practicing Yoga & Meditation has enriched my life ten fold some running into Kaila's share about mindfulness was awesome share!"
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Heather chose Under the Sea Party: Real Parties from Love That Party. "We had big first birthday parties for both of our boys. I love this theme and all of the great decorations!"
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Heather chose Born to Stand Out Flamingo Print + Party Ideas! from Lolly Jane Blog. "I love flamingos, and this is a really cute printable with snack ideas for a party. I guess I'm just in party planning mode this week!"
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Natasha chose 7 Tips to Help You Create Healthful School Lunches from Grounded and Surrounded. "With my son headed for kindergarten next week, I'm trying to figure out some healthy lunch options for him. I'm aiming to send him with lunch 3-4 days a week and letting him have lunch at school 1-2 days a week. Thanks for the great and simple ideas!"
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Natasha chose 15 After School Snacks for Kids from Drugstore Divas. "Thanks for sharing these simple ideas for after school snacks! I'll definitely be trying them!"
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